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Good Stress?

Anyone who has worked with me will tell you that the first thing I tell a Bride is that “stress” is a bad word!  LOL  Seriously.  A lot of times all you hear brides say is “omg, I’m so stressed, have to go see venues, I have to go see dresses, I have to go interview DJ’s.  Girls - Girls - Girls!  Getting married is a joyous event.  Don’t treat stress associated with weddings as such a bad thing, it’s “good stress” 
I recently read an article that said “fulfillment brought by good stress may also be experienced on one's wedding day or when completing something challenging yet rewarding”.   Here is the link for the full article 
My suggestion?  You know it’s going to entail some type of organization!  LOL  Organization is KEY to not feeling overwhelmed.  
Here are just a few tips!
  • After he pops the question, decide on a date as soon as possible. You may have to visit your local church and venue before pinning down an exact date but at least figure out if you want a Spring 2012 or Fall 2011 wedding.  
  • Financial constraints are BIG “bad stress” factors. I always tell my couples, DON’T go broke to pull this weddding  together, there is no need to start a life together in debt.   Coming home after a gorgeous wedding and awesome honeymoon to a large bill can add a whole lot of stress on a new marriage. Use common sense-don't charge up a lot of stuff. A wedding is one day of your life. Do what you can afford!
  • Book your vendors in this order: church, reception venue, photographer, and d.j./band. You cannot snooze on these! Once these are booked, you're 50 % done and you have all your time to concentrate on other things. 
  • Let the parents have their say. If parents want to have a hand in the planning and if they are helping to finance it, listen to them. Ultimately, it's your and your fiancé's day, but your parents may have good input. At least listen, and then make decisions. Stand firm on all decisions.
  • Decide on and book your honeymoon and transportation plans as soon as possible.
  • Choose your attendants carefully. Some people want a ginormous party with 15 of their closest friends. Know that the more people you have, the more the potential for chaos to erupt. If you choose those whom you know really love you and are in full support of your wedding, you will have a much better time.  I can’t tell you how many times I sit there consoling a Bride whose wedding party is giving her a hard time.  Simpler is better.
  • Don't sweat the small stuff. Your fiancé wants a traditional bride and groom cake topper; you want a trendy monogram. This is not worth a fight girls!  Lets flip a coin and move on. True story:  the other day I was in the middle of a consult with a Soon to Be Bride.  She was interested in Coordination Services and possibly, Bridal Attendant.  At some point, the  Soon to Be Groom says “and what about me?”.  I thought that was so cute!  My point girls - let him have some kind of input please. 
  • Lastly - Know how hot pick your battles.  Let it go!! You want cds playing before the wedding, but your dad wants live organ music. Regardless of whether he’s paying for it nor not, let him have his organ music. Trust me-you won't remember the organ or cd. Don't sweat the small stuff.
Happy Planning Girls! 

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